a work for a lifetime:

"What Nietzsche argues is that the dignified individual is one who can turn an eye on themselves and survey their weaknesses and strengths. Both facets, once admitted and understood, can be knitted together to form one's character, to lend it style. It takes a long time and much practice, but these are admirable people. They find satisfaction in life. They are able to throw off the resentment of those who do not have the courage to examine themselves. For such resentment, with its desire to revenge, makes for the most undignified of human creatures."

[tx c for the quote, after a long and very interesting debate on Friday evening :)]